{"id":3950,"date":"2025-12-18T18:41:41","date_gmt":"2025-12-18T18:41:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/?p=3950"},"modified":"2025-12-18T18:41:52","modified_gmt":"2025-12-18T18:41:52","slug":"anne-babamin-koluna-bak-yeni-bir-baba-istemiyorum","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/anne-babamin-koluna-bak-yeni-bir-baba-istemiyorum\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201cAnne, babam\u0131n koluna bak \u2014 Yeni bir baba istemiyorum!\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"

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D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn salonunda k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir k\u0131z\u0131n f\u0131s\u0131lt\u0131s\u0131<\/strong>, gecenin ak\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirdi. 7 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki Nil\u2019in, \u201cAnne, babam\u0131n koluna bak! Yeni bir baba istemiyorum!\u201d<\/strong> \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131, beyaz g\u00fcller ve kutlamalar aras\u0131ndaki huzuru an\u0131nda sarsan bir an<\/strong> yaratt\u0131. Bir koyu k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 ruj izi<\/strong>, ard\u0131ndan gelen itiraf ve aile i\u00e7indeki hesapla\u015fma \u2014 bu foto-galeri, duygular\u0131 ve gerilimi zirveye ta\u015f\u0131yor.
(Foto Galeri: Ba\u015fl\u0131k foto\u011fraf\u0131 \u2014 Gelinin \u015fa\u015fk\u0131n bak\u0131\u015f\u0131 ve Nil\u2019in s\u0131k\u0131 tutu\u015fu.)<\/strong><\/p>\n

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D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz alt\u0131 ay ertelenmi\u015fti; sonunda o b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00fcn<\/strong> gelmi\u015fti \u2014 salon beyaz g\u00fcllerle, sevdiklerimizle doluydu. Her \u015feyin tamamland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, huzuru buldu\u011fumuzu<\/strong> d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm anda Nil yan\u0131ma yakla\u015ft\u0131. H\u0131\u00e7k\u0131r\u0131klarla, mahcup bir kararl\u0131l\u0131kla f\u0131s\u0131ldad\u0131: \u201cAnne, babam\u0131n koluna bak! Ben yeni bir baba falan istemiyorum!\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nil\u2019in parma\u011f\u0131 R\u00fczgar\u2019\u0131n koluna i\u015faret ediyordu. O an sessizlik \u00e7\u00f6k\u00fcnce, yan\u0131 ba\u015f\u0131mdaki kutlama birden c\u0131l\u0131z bir u\u011fultuya d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc. R\u00fczgar, o s\u0131rada konuklarla \u015fakala\u015f\u0131yordu; ben ise onu sakin bir odaya \u00e7a\u011f\u0131rd\u0131m. \u201cCeketini \u00e7\u0131kar,\u201d<\/strong> dedim. Teredd\u00fctle \u00e7\u0131kard\u0131. Beyaz g\u00f6mle\u011finin omzunda, tam da Nil\u2019in tarif etti\u011fi gibi koyu k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131, kusursuz bir ruj izi<\/strong> vard\u0131.<\/p>\n

R\u00fczgar panikledi: \u201cAnnem \u00f6pm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr i\u00e7eri girerken.\u201d<\/strong> Benim i\u00e7in o iz, sadece bir leke de\u011fildi \u2014 g\u00fcven ve sadakat\u0131n sembol\u00fcyd\u00fc. \u201cAnnen pembe ruj s\u00fcrer R\u00fczgar, bu kan k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131s\u0131!\u201d<\/strong> diyerek oday\u0131 terk ettim. D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde olup bitenleri g\u00f6r\u00fcnmez k\u0131lmak istememi\u015ftim; ama y\u00fczle\u015fme an\u0131 gelmi\u015fti.<\/p>\n

Salona d\u00f6n\u00fcp karde\u015fim Melis\u2019ten yard\u0131m istedim. O da mikrofonu al\u0131p bir anda gerginli\u011fi sahneye ta\u015f\u0131yan bir oyun<\/strong> ba\u015flatt\u0131: \u201cPeki, aram\u0131zda kim \u015fu an koyu vi\u015fne \u00e7\u00fcr\u00fc\u011f\u00fc ruj s\u00fcr\u00fcyor? G\u00f6relim bakal\u0131m!\u201d G\u00f6zler, Selin\u2019e \u00e7evrildi \u2014 \u00fcniversiteden beri en yak\u0131n arkada\u015f\u0131m. Selin aya\u011fa kalkt\u0131, y\u00fcz\u00fc bembeyazd\u0131. Ben mikrofonu elime ald\u0131m: \u201cSana \u00f6d\u00fcl yok Selin. Neden R\u00fczgar\u2019\u0131 damgalad\u0131n?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Selin\u2019in suskunlu\u011fu, salondaki havay\u0131 daha da a\u011f\u0131rla\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131. Nil\u2019in masumiyeti, bir yeti\u015fkinin kaybetti\u011fi kontrol\u00fc a\u00e7\u0131\u011fa \u00e7\u0131karm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Gece ge\u00e7 saatte Selin arad\u0131; h\u0131\u00e7k\u0131r\u0131klar i\u00e7inde itiraf etti: y\u0131llard\u0131r R\u00fczgar\u2019a kar\u015f\u0131 besledi\u011fi gizli a\u015fk\u0131n\u0131, t\u00f6renden sonra ona ilan-\u0131 a\u015fk edip zorla \u00f6pmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yledi. \u201cO seni seviyor, hata yapan bendim. Sadece kontrol\u00fcm\u00fc kaybettim,\u201d<\/strong> dedi.<\/p>\n

Ertesi g\u00fcn R\u00fczgar uzun, mahcup bir mesaj g\u00f6nderdi. Savunma yoktu; sadece o an korktu\u011funu, d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc mahvetmek istemedi\u011fi i\u00e7in sustu\u011funu ve bunun i\u00e7in \u00f6z\u00fcr diledi\u011fini yazd\u0131. Bu a\u00e7\u0131klama, g\u00fcvenin s\u0131nand\u0131\u011f\u0131<\/strong> ama tamamen yok olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir pencere a\u00e7t\u0131.<\/p>\n

Nil\u2019le uzun bir konu\u015fma yapt\u0131m. Ona d\u00fcr\u00fcst\u00e7e anlatt\u0131m: \u201cBirisi k\u00f6t\u00fc bir se\u00e7im yapt\u0131 bebe\u011fim. Baban seni de beni de aldatmad\u0131, sadece o an ne yapaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilemedi.\u201d<\/strong> Nil\u2019in zihnindeki karga\u015fa, onun basit ama derin talebinde topland\u0131: \u201cYeni bir babaya ihtiyac\u0131m\u0131z yok.\u201d<\/strong> O gece, mutfakta R\u00fczgar diz \u00e7\u00f6k\u00fcp Nil\u2019den \u00f6z\u00fcr diledi: \u201cBir hata yapt\u0131m ama bu aileyi da\u011f\u0131tacak bir hata de\u011fildi. Seni ve anneni ne kadar \u00e7ok sevdi\u011fimden asla \u015f\u00fcphe etme.\u201d<\/strong> Nil sar\u0131ld\u0131 ve dedi ki: \u201cG\u00fczel. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ba\u015fka baba istemiyorum.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Aile, G\u00fcven ve \u0130kinci \u015eanslar<\/h3>\n

Bu hik\u00e2ye yaln\u0131zca bir ruj izinden ibaret de\u011fildi; g\u00fcven, sadakat ve ba\u011f\u0131\u015flama<\/strong> \u00fczerineydi. R\u00fczgar, ili\u015fkideki yerini zorlanmadan kazanan bir adamd\u0131 \u2014 Nil\u2019in sandvi\u00e7lerinin kenar\u0131n\u0131 bilip kesen, hayat\u0131m\u0131zda kimsenin yerini \u00e7almadan bize yer a\u00e7an biriydi. Selin\u2019in itiraf\u0131 bir skandald\u0131, ama ayn\u0131 zamanda bir ger\u00e7e\u011fin a\u00e7\u0131\u011fa \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015f\u0131yd\u0131: \u0130nsanlar hata yapar, ama \u00f6nemli olan sonras\u0131nda ne yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131d\u0131r<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczdeki o an, ailemizin s\u0131nand\u0131\u011f\u0131 an oldu. Kusursuz de\u011fildik; sars\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131k ama hala bir aradayd\u0131k.<\/strong> Nil\u2019in karar\u0131, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ama g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir yek-v\u00fccut olma iradesi ta\u015f\u0131yordu. Hepimiz ad\u0131na s\u00f6yledi\u011fi bu net c\u00fcmle, ili\u015fkimizin onar\u0131m yoluna girmesinde belirleyici oldu.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn salonunda k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir k\u0131z\u0131n f\u0131s\u0131lt\u0131s\u0131, gecenin ak\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirdi. 7 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki Nil\u2019in, \u201cAnne, babam\u0131n koluna bak! Yeni bir baba istemiyorum!\u201d \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131, beyaz g\u00fcller ve kutlamalar […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3952,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3950","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3950","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3950"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3950\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3954,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3950\/revisions\/3954"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3952"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3950"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3950"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3950"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}