{"id":4203,"date":"2025-12-24T21:05:58","date_gmt":"2025-12-24T21:05:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/?p=4203"},"modified":"2025-12-24T21:06:11","modified_gmt":"2025-12-24T21:06:11","slug":"torunlarim-beni-yillarca-sadece-bayram-harcligi-icin-ziyaret-ettigini-sandim","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/torunlarim-beni-yillarca-sadece-bayram-harcligi-icin-ziyaret-ettigini-sandim\/","title":{"rendered":"Torunlar\u0131m Beni Y\u0131llarca Sadece Bayram Har\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u0130\u00e7in Ziyaret Etti\u011fini Sand\u0131m"},"content":{"rendered":"

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82 ya\u015f\u0131nday\u0131m.
Bunu s\u00f6yledi\u011fimde insanlar ya \u015fa\u015f\u0131r\u0131yor ya da hemen ac\u0131ma refleksi<\/strong> g\u00f6steriyor. Oysa ben hayat\u0131m boyunca kimseye muhta\u00e7 olmadan ya\u015fad\u0131m. Gen\u00e7 ya\u015fta evlendim, e\u015fimle k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir d\u00fckk\u00e2n a\u00e7t\u0131k. G\u00fcn do\u011fmadan kalkt\u0131m, gece ge\u00e7 saatlere kadar \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Emek verdim, birikim yapt\u0131m, kimseye el a\u00e7mad\u0131m.<\/strong><\/p>\n

E\u015fim \u00f6ld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde 54 ya\u015f\u0131ndayd\u0131m. \u201cYaln\u0131z kalamazs\u0131n\u201d dediler. Dinlemedim. Ben zaten hayat\u0131m boyunca kendime yetmeyi<\/strong> \u00f6\u011frenmi\u015ftim.<\/p>\n

Y\u0131llar ge\u00e7ti. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131m b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc, evlendi. Torunlar\u0131m oldu. Onlar\u0131 ilk kuca\u011f\u0131ma ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m g\u00fcn\u00fc h\u00e2l\u00e2 hat\u0131rl\u0131yorum. O g\u00fcn kendi kendime bir s\u00f6z verdim:
\u201cBu \u00e7ocuklar ne isterse yapaca\u011f\u0131m.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Belki de hatam tam olarak buydu.<\/p>\n

Bayramlar benim i\u00e7in kutsald\u0131. G\u00fcnler \u00f6ncesinden temizlik yapar, baklava a\u00e7ar, en g\u00fczel masa \u00f6rt\u00fcm\u00fc sererdim. Torunlar\u0131m kap\u0131dan girdi\u011finde evim ayd\u0131nlan\u0131rd\u0131.
Ve her bayram\u2026 zarflar.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Her birinin i\u00e7ine 20.000 TL<\/strong> koyard\u0131m. S\u00f6ylemezdim, g\u00f6stermezdim. Onlar\u0131n mutlu olmas\u0131 bana yetiyordu.<\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

Ge\u00e7en y\u0131l her \u015fey ilk kez bu kadar net g\u00f6z\u00fcme batt\u0131. Hepsi arife g\u00fcn\u00fc geldi. Ayn\u0131 saat, ayn\u0131 acele. Sar\u0131lmalar k\u0131sa, sohbetler y\u00fczeyseldi. Telefonlar hi\u00e7 inmedi ellerinden.<\/p>\n

Ama kimse \u015funu sormad\u0131:
\u201c\u0130yi misin?\u201d<\/strong>
\u201cYaln\u0131z m\u0131s\u0131n?\u201d<\/strong>
\u201cBir \u015feye ihtiyac\u0131n var m\u0131?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Yemekten sonra o tan\u0131d\u0131k an geldi. Sessizlik\u2026 Bekleyi\u015f\u2026
Ama bu kez aya\u011fa kalkmad\u0131m.<\/p>\n

\u201cBu y\u0131l zarflar\u0131 vermeyece\u011fim,\u201d dedim.<\/p>\n

O an odan\u0131n havas\u0131 de\u011fi\u015fti. Y\u00fczler d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc, bak\u0131\u015flar sertle\u015fti.
\u201c\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc,\u201d dedim sakince, \u201cart\u0131k kimin beni ger\u00e7ekten sevdi\u011fini bilmek istiyorum.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ve sonra\u2026 yava\u015f yava\u015f gittiler.<\/p>\n

Kap\u0131 kapand\u0131\u011f\u0131nda a\u011flamad\u0131m. \u0130\u00e7imde garip bir rahatlama<\/strong> vard\u0131.
Sonraki g\u00fcnler telefon \u00e7almad\u0131.
Bir hafta\u2026 Bir ay\u2026<\/p>\n

Derken bir sabah kap\u0131 \u00e7ald\u0131. Emir\u2019di.
\u201cPara i\u00e7in gelmedim,\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n

G\u00fcl\u00fcmsedim. \u201cBiliyorum.\u201d<\/p>\n

O g\u00fcn ona ger\u00e7e\u011fi anlatt\u0131m. Zarflar\u0131n art\u0131k olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131\u2026 Paran\u0131n bir vakfa ba\u011f\u0131\u015fland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131\u2026 Ama as\u0131l miras\u0131n para olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Evim ve birikimlerim art\u0131k yan\u0131mda olanlara<\/strong> kalacakt\u0131.<\/p>\n

O g\u00fcnden sonra baz\u0131lar\u0131 ger\u00e7ekten gelmeye ba\u015flad\u0131.
Baz\u0131lar\u0131 ise hi\u00e7 gelmedi<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\u015eimdi 88 ya\u015f\u0131nday\u0131m.
Bayramlarda evim daha sessiz.
Ama kalbim daha dolu.<\/p>\n

\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00f6\u011frendim:
Para insanlar\u0131 toplar. Yoklu\u011fu ise ger\u00e7e\u011fi ortaya \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131r.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

82 ya\u015f\u0131nday\u0131m.Bunu s\u00f6yledi\u011fimde insanlar ya \u015fa\u015f\u0131r\u0131yor ya da hemen ac\u0131ma refleksi g\u00f6steriyor. Oysa ben hayat\u0131m boyunca kimseye muhta\u00e7 olmadan ya\u015fad\u0131m. Gen\u00e7 ya\u015fta evlendim, e\u015fimle k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4205,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[245,247,248,246,244],"class_list":["post-4203","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-aile-iliskileri","tag-bayram-ziyaretleri","tag-finansal-bilinc","tag-miras-gercegi","tag-yaslilik-hikayesi"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4203","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4203"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4203\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4207,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4203\/revisions\/4207"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4205"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4203"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4203"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4203"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}