{"id":4694,"date":"2026-01-16T21:14:12","date_gmt":"2026-01-16T21:14:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/?p=4694"},"modified":"2026-01-16T21:14:23","modified_gmt":"2026-01-16T21:14:23","slug":"babamin-meslegi-nedeniyle-dugunumde-istenmedi-ama-soyledikleri-herkesi-susturdu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/babamin-meslegi-nedeniyle-dugunumde-istenmedi-ama-soyledikleri-herkesi-susturdu\/","title":{"rendered":"Babam\u0131n mesle\u011fi nedeniyle d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcmde istenmedi, ama s\u00f6yledikleri herkesi susturdu"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Kay\u0131nvalidesi ve kay\u0131npederi, gelinin babas\u0131n\u0131n mesle\u011fini gerek\u00e7e g\u00f6stererek d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde bulunmas\u0131n\u0131 istemedi. Ancak baban\u0131n yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 k\u0131sa konu\u015fma, salondaki bak\u0131\u015flar\u0131 tamamen de\u011fi\u015ftirdi.<\/p>\n

Annemin vefat\u0131ndan sonra beni tek ba\u015f\u0131na b\u00fcy\u00fcten babam, y\u0131llard\u0131r \u00e7\u00f6p toplayarak ge\u00e7imini sa\u011flad\u0131. Hayat\u0131m\u0131z m\u00fctevaz\u0131yd\u0131 ama eksik de\u011fildi. Evlilik haz\u0131rl\u0131klar\u0131 s\u0131ras\u0131nda ise bu ger\u00e7ek, e\u015fimin ailesiyle aram\u0131zda g\u00f6r\u00fcnmez bir mesafeye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc.<\/p>\n

D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn g\u00fcn\u00fc geldi\u011finde, bu mesafe a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a hissedildi.<\/p>\n

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Babam mikrofona biraz daha yakla\u015ft\u0131. Ellerinin titredi\u011fini fark ediyordum ama sesi sakindi. Salonda \u00f6yle bir sessizlik vard\u0131 ki, sandalyelerin g\u0131c\u0131rt\u0131s\u0131 bile duyuluyordu.<\/p>\n

\u201cEvet,\u201d dedi, \u201cben \u00e7\u00f6p toplad\u0131m. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu i\u015f bana haram lokma yedirmedi.\u201d<\/p>\n

Bir an durdu, g\u00f6zleri salondaki insanlar\u0131 dola\u015ft\u0131.<\/p>\n

\u201cKimsenin mal\u0131nda, paras\u0131nda g\u00f6z\u00fcm olmad\u0131. K\u0131z\u0131m\u0131n r\u0131zk\u0131n\u0131 kendi eme\u011fimle kazand\u0131m. Eve her d\u00f6nd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcmde yorgundum ama ba\u015f\u0131m diktir.\u201d<\/p>\n

Salonda baz\u0131 y\u00fczler yere bakmaya ba\u015flad\u0131.<\/p>\n

\u201cBen k\u0131z\u0131m\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fct\u00fcrken ona \u015funu \u00f6\u011frettim: \u0130nsanlar\u0131 mesleklerine g\u00f6re de\u011fil, kalplerine g\u00f6re de\u011ferlendirin.\u201d<\/p>\n

Sonra Emre\u2019ye d\u00f6nd\u00fc.<\/p>\n

\u201cO\u011flunuza gelince\u2026 K\u0131z\u0131m\u0131 seviyor, onu incitmiyor ve arkas\u0131nda duruyorsa, benim i\u00e7in yeterlidir. Gerisi g\u00f6steri\u015ftir.\u201d<\/p>\n

Babam mikrofonu yava\u015f\u00e7a yerine b\u0131rakt\u0131.<\/p>\n

Kimse alk\u0131\u015flamad\u0131. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc o an alk\u0131\u015ftan daha a\u011f\u0131r bir \u015fey vard\u0131: utanma<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Emre\u2019nin annesi ve babas\u0131 ilk kez g\u00f6zlerime bakt\u0131. Ne kibir vard\u0131 ne de so\u011fukluk. Sadece sessizlik.<\/p>\n

Bir s\u00fcre sonra Emre\u2019nin annesi aya\u011fa kalkt\u0131, babama do\u011fru y\u00fcr\u00fcd\u00fc ve k\u0131s\u0131k bir sesle \u015funu s\u00f6yledi:<\/p>\n

\u201cYan\u0131lm\u0131\u015f\u0131z.\u201d<\/p>\n

Babam sadece ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 sallad\u0131.<\/p>\n

O g\u00fcn anlad\u0131m ki;
onur, pahal\u0131 elbiselerde de\u011fil, eme\u011fin i\u00e7inde sakl\u0131d\u0131r.<\/strong>
Ve baz\u0131 insanlar bir salona s\u00fcs olmaya de\u011fil, ders vermeye<\/strong> gelir.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Kay\u0131nvalidesi ve kay\u0131npederi, gelinin babas\u0131n\u0131n mesle\u011fini gerek\u00e7e g\u00f6stererek d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde bulunmas\u0131n\u0131 istemedi. Ancak baban\u0131n yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 k\u0131sa konu\u015fma, salondaki bak\u0131\u015flar\u0131 tamamen de\u011fi\u015ftirdi. Annemin vefat\u0131ndan sonra beni tek […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4695,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[278,456,458,457,459],"class_list":["post-4694","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-aile","tag-emek","tag-hayat-hikayesi","tag-onur","tag-toplumsal-degerler"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4694","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4694"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4694\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4698,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4694\/revisions\/4698"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4695"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4694"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4694"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4694"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}