{"id":5216,"date":"2026-02-13T19:22:58","date_gmt":"2026-02-13T19:22:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/?p=5216"},"modified":"2026-02-13T19:23:06","modified_gmt":"2026-02-13T19:23:06","slug":"dugunumun-dedem-icin-bir-huzurevinde-yapilacagini-ogrenince-gelmeyi-reddettiler","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/dugunumun-dedem-icin-bir-huzurevinde-yapilacagini-ogrenince-gelmeyi-reddettiler\/","title":{"rendered":"D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcn dedem i\u00e7in bir huzurevinde yap\u0131laca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenince gelmeyi reddettiler"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Ailem, d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcn bir huzurevinde yap\u0131laca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011frendi\u011fi anda d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne kat\u0131lmaya itiraz etti \u2014 s\u0131rf dedem gelebilsin diye b\u00f6yle bir yer se\u00e7mi\u015ftik.
\n\u201cBizi rezil ettin,\u201d diye ba\u011f\u0131rd\u0131 babam.
\nDi\u011ferleri de ona kat\u0131l\u0131p g\u00fcld\u00fc.
\nBen hi\u00e7bir \u015fey s\u00f6ylemedim.
\nG\u00fcl\u00fcmsedim, ni\u015fanl\u0131m\u0131n elini tuttum ve yine de nik\u00e2h yolundan y\u00fcr\u00fcd\u00fcm.
\nSonra dedem yava\u015f\u00e7a sandalyesinden do\u011fruldu.
\nHerkesin dikkatini istedi.
\nVe s\u00f6yledikleri, sadece o salonu de\u011fil \u2014 duvarlar\u0131n \u00e7ok \u00f6tesindeki herkesi susturdu.
\nAntalya\u2019n\u0131n kenar semtlerinden birinde, sakin bir yerde bulunan G\u00fclistan Huzurevi, daha \u00f6nce hi\u00e7 bir d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne ev sahipli\u011fi yapmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Havada keskin bir dezenfektan kokusu vard\u0131; koridor boyunca dizilmi\u015f g\u00fcller bu sertli\u011fi biraz olsun yumu\u015fat\u0131yordu.
\n\u015e\u0131k de\u011fildi \u2014 ama ger\u00e7ekti.
\nAli\u2019nin yan\u0131nda duruyordum, parmaklar\u0131m\u0131z birbirine kenetlenmi\u015fti. Kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zda, aileyle dolu olmas\u0131 gereken sandalyeler vard\u0131.
\nAma \u00f6n s\u0131radaki her koltuk ac\u0131 verici \u015fekilde bo\u015ftu.
\n\u201cBelki yine de gelirler,\u201d diye f\u0131s\u0131ldad\u0131 Ali.
\n\u0130kimiz de bunun olmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 biliyorduk.
\nBu mek\u00e2n\u0131 neden se\u00e7ti\u011fimizi ilk anlatt\u0131\u011f\u0131mda, babam hi\u00e7 teredd\u00fct etmemi\u015fti.
\n\u201cHuzurevi mi?\u201d diye alay etmi\u015fti.
\n\u201cHerkes bizi \u00e7aresiz sans\u0131n m\u0131 istiyorsun? Utanmal\u0131s\u0131n.\u201d
\nArka planda amcalar\u0131m kahkaha atm\u0131\u015ft\u0131.
\nAnnem sessiz kalm\u0131\u015ft\u0131.
\nEn \u00e7ok da o sessizlik can\u0131m\u0131 yakm\u0131\u015ft\u0131.
\n\u015eimdi, ya\u015fl\u0131 sakinler merakl\u0131 ama yumu\u015fak bak\u0131\u015flarla bizi izlerken, ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131 dik tuttum ve ileri ad\u0131m att\u0131m. K\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 g\u00f6rmelerine izin vermeyecektim.
\nD\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcn ortas\u0131nda sessizlik, bastonun yere hafif\u00e7e vurmas\u0131yla bozuldu.
\nDedem aya\u011fa kalkm\u0131\u015ft\u0131.
\nBir hem\u015fire tela\u015fla yan\u0131na ko\u015ftu ama dedem elini kald\u0131rarak onu durdurdu.
\n\u201cL\u00fctfen,\u201d dedi yumu\u015fak bir sesle.
\n\u201cKonu\u015fmama izin verin.\u201d
\nSalon sustu
\nBedeni izin verdi\u011fi \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcde do\u011fruldu. Sesi y\u0131pranm\u0131\u015ft\u0131 ama kararl\u0131yd\u0131. Bu d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcn neden burada yap\u0131lmak zorunda oldu\u011funu hi\u00e7 bilmediler.\u201d dedi ve ger\u00e7e\u011fi a\u00e7\u0131klad\u0131\u2026
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Salon tamamen sessizli\u011fe g\u00f6m\u00fcld\u00fc. Huzurevi sakinleri bile \u00f6nemli bir \u015feyin olmak \u00fczere oldu\u011funu sezmi\u015f gibiydi.<\/p>\n

Mehmet<\/strong>\u00a0derin bir nefes ald\u0131. E\u011filmi\u015f bedeni k\u0131r\u0131lgan g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyordu ama sesi beklenmedik bir g\u00fc\u00e7 ta\u015f\u0131yordu.<\/p>\n

\u201cBir\u00e7ok ki\u015fi bu d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcn neden burada yap\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 merak etti,<\/strong>\u201d diye ba\u015flad\u0131.
\u201cBaz\u0131lar\u0131 g\u00fcld\u00fc. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 utand\u0131. Ama hi\u00e7biri ger\u00e7e\u011fi bilmiyordu.\u201d<\/p>\n

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G\u00f6\u011fs\u00fcm s\u0131k\u0131\u015ft\u0131.<\/p>\n

\u201cBen ortadan kayboldu\u011fum i\u00e7in kaybolmad\u0131m,<\/strong>\u201d diye devam etti.
\u201cBirileri kaybolmam gerekti\u011fine karar verdi\u011fi i\u00e7in kayboldum.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Bak\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 t\u00f6reni kaydeden telefona \u00e7evirdi \u2014 videonun, gelmeyi reddedenlere ula\u015faca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilerek.<\/p>\n

\u201cOn iki y\u0131l \u00f6nce,<\/strong>\u201d dedi,
\u201ckendi o\u011flum beni bu huzurevine yerle\u015ftirdi. Hastanedeyken belgeler imzalad\u0131.
Beni yetersiz ilan etti \u2014 oysa h\u00e2l\u00e2 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yordum, akl\u0131m yerindeydi.\u201d<\/p>\n

Sessizlik eziciydi.<\/p>\n

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\u201cO g\u00fcnden sonra beni ziyaret eden tek ki\u015fi,<\/strong>\u201d diye ekledi ve beni i\u015faret etti,
\u201coydu.<\/strong>
Bu d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn bu y\u00fczden burada yap\u0131l\u0131yor.
Ac\u0131madan de\u011fil \u2014\u00a0ger\u00e7ekten dolay\u0131.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Ailem her neredeyse, o an kahkahalar\u0131 bitti.<\/p>\n

Babam\u0131n videoyu\u00a0ayn\u0131 gece<\/strong>\u00a0izledi\u011fini biliyordum.
Saat\u00a0on bir k\u0131rk iki<\/strong>de telefonum titredi. G\u00f6rmezden geldim.
Gece yar\u0131s\u0131nda<\/strong>\u00a0tekrar \u00e7ald\u0131. A\u00e7mad\u0131m.
\u00dc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc aramada<\/strong>\u00a0telefonu a\u00e7t\u0131m.<\/p>\n

\u201cDeden ne s\u00f6yledi?<\/strong>\u201d diye sordu, selam bile vermeden.<\/p>\n

\u201cGer\u00e7e\u011fi s\u00f6yledi,<\/strong>\u201d dedim.<\/p>\n

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Ve telefonu kapatt\u0131m.<\/p>\n

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B\u00fcy\u00fcrken bana dedemin, b\u00fcy\u00fckannem \u00f6ld\u00fckten sonra \u201cyava\u015f yava\u015f silindi\u011fi<\/strong>\u201d s\u00f6ylendi.
Kimseyi tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131, huzurevine konmas\u0131n\u0131n \u201ckendi iyili\u011fi i\u00e7in<\/strong>\u201d oldu\u011fu anlat\u0131ld\u0131.<\/p>\n

Ama\u00a0on sekiz ya\u015f\u0131ma<\/strong>\u00a0geldi\u011fimde onu ilk kez ziyaret etti\u011fimde, y\u00fcz\u00fcme bakt\u0131 ve\u00a0tam ad\u0131m\u0131<\/strong>, hi\u00e7 teredd\u00fct etmeden s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n

\u0130\u015fte o zaman sorular sormaya ba\u015flad\u0131m.<\/p>\n

T\u0131bbi dosyalar\u0131 istedim, eski kom\u015fularla konu\u015ftum, hatta dedemin eski bir\u00a0noter dostuna<\/strong>\u00a0ula\u015ft\u0131m.
Her yol ayn\u0131 sonuca \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yordu:\u00a0Babam<\/strong>, eve ve hesaplara h\u00e2kim olabilmek i\u00e7in her \u015feyi planlam\u0131\u015ft\u0131.<\/p>\n

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\u201c\u0130mzalarken ona g\u00fcvendim,<\/strong>\u201d demi\u015fti dedem bir keresinde sessizce.
\u201cHayat\u0131m\u0131 imzalad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 bilmiyordum.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Y\u0131llar boyunca kimse gelmedi.
Kimse sormad\u0131.
Kimse umursamad\u0131.<\/p>\n

Ben hari\u00e7.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Dedem d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde konu\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131 bitirdi\u011finde, nik\u00e2h memuru teredd\u00fct etti.<\/p>\n

\u201cDevam etmek ister misiniz?<\/strong>\u201d diye sordu yumu\u015fak bir sesle.<\/p>\n

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\u201cEvet,<\/strong>\u201d dedim.
Arkam\u0131 bile d\u00f6nmeden.<\/p>\n

\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc baz\u0131 ger\u00e7eklerin\u00a0\u015fahitlere<\/strong>\u00a0ihtiyac\u0131 vard\u0131r.
Baz\u0131 ailelerin ise yoktur.<\/p>\n

Kan ba\u011f\u0131n\u0131n de\u011fil,\u00a0insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n alk\u0131\u015flar\u0131<\/strong>\u00a0aras\u0131nda evlendik.<\/p>\n

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\u0130ki g\u00fcn sonra<\/strong>,\u00a0Ankara\u2019daki<\/strong>\u00a0bir avukattan e-posta ald\u0131m. Dedemi temsil ediyordu. Harekete ge\u00e7meye karar verdi\u011finde onunla ba\u011flant\u0131 kurmas\u0131na ben yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmu\u015ftum.<\/p>\n

S\u00fcre\u00e7 h\u0131zl\u0131yd\u0131 ama sertti.
Para transferleri, \u015f\u00fcpheli imzalar ve\u00a0manip\u00fcle edilmi\u015f bir sa\u011fl\u0131k raporu<\/strong>\u00a0ortaya \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131.
Babam ifadeye \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131ld\u0131. Amcalar\u0131m da.<\/p>\n

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\u201cSadece yard\u0131m etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorduk,<\/strong>\u201d dedi i\u00e7lerinden biri.<\/p>\n

\u201cBirbirinize,<\/strong>\u201d diye d\u00fczeltti h\u00e2kim.<\/p>\n

Annem beni g\u00f6rmeye geldi. A\u011flad\u0131. Hi\u00e7bir \u015fey bilmedi\u011fini s\u00f6yledi.
\u0130nan\u0131p inanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 h\u00e2l\u00e2 bilmiyorum.<\/p>\n

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H\u00e2kim, huzurevine kapat\u0131lman\u0131n\u00a0haks\u0131z<\/strong>\u00a0oldu\u011funa karar verdi\u011fi g\u00fcn, dedem oradan yava\u015f ama dimdik y\u00fcr\u00fcyerek \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131. Aile evine bir daha hi\u00e7 d\u00f6nmedi.
\u201cOrada sadece hayaletler kald\u0131,<\/strong>\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n

Denize yak\u0131n k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir daire ald\u0131. Ta\u015f\u0131nmas\u0131na yard\u0131m ettim.
Ali<\/strong>\u00a0duvarlar\u0131 boyad\u0131.
Yerde oturup\u00a0pilav<\/strong>\u00a0yedik.<\/p>\n

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\u201c\u0130ntikam istemiyorum,<\/strong>\u201d dedi dedem bir ak\u015fam.
\u201cSadece hayat\u0131m\u0131n kalan\u0131n\u0131 onurumla ya\u015famak istiyorum.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

Babam beni aramay\u0131 b\u0131rakt\u0131.<\/p>\n

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Dava kimseyi hapse g\u00f6ndermedi. Gerek de yoktu.
Ceza\u00a0sosyal<\/strong>,\u00a0sessiz<\/strong>\u00a0ve\u00a0kal\u0131c\u0131yd\u0131<\/strong>.
\u0130zmir\u2019de<\/strong>\u00a0dedikodular \u00e7abuk yay\u0131l\u0131r.
Babama bir daha kimse eskisi gibi bakmad\u0131.<\/p>\n

\u00d6nce sayg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, sonra i\u015fini kaybetti.
Amcalar\u0131m da\u011f\u0131ld\u0131 \u2014 batan gemiyi terk eden fareler gibi.<\/p>\n

Ben hi\u00e7bir \u015feyi kutlamad\u0131m.
Onlar\u0131n d\u00fc\u015fmesini hi\u00e7 istemedim.
Sadece\u00a0yalan s\u00f6ylemeyi b\u0131rakmalar\u0131n\u0131<\/strong> istedim.<\/p>\n

Dedem her sabah sahil boyunca y\u00fcr\u00fcmeye ba\u015flad\u0131.
Yabanc\u0131lara selam verdi.
Yeniden g\u00fclmeye ba\u015flad\u0131.<\/p>\n

\u201cHayat\u0131n bu kadar basit olabilece\u011fini bilmiyordum,<\/strong>\u201d dedi bir g\u00fcn.
\u201cBana bunun imk\u00e2ns\u0131z oldu\u011fu \u00f6\u011fretilmi\u015fti.<\/strong>\u201d<\/p>\n

D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnden\u00a0bir y\u0131l sonra<\/strong>,\u00a0yetmi\u015f sekizinci<\/strong>\u00a0do\u011fum g\u00fcn\u00fcn\u00fc kutlad\u0131k.
Bu kez kimse g\u00fclmedi.
Kimse utand\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in gelmedi.
Yeni dostlar, kom\u015fular, hatta \u00f6z\u00fcr dileyen uzak akrabalar vard\u0131.<\/p>\n

Babam gelmedi.<\/p>\n

Sand\u0131\u011f\u0131m kadar can\u0131m\u0131 yakmad\u0131.<\/p>\n

\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u015funu anlad\u0131m:
Aile<\/strong>, her zaman kan\u0131n\u0131 payla\u015fan de\u011fil;
yoluna \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda seni saklamayan<\/strong>d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

G\u00fclistan Huzurevi<\/strong>\u00a0h\u00e2l\u00e2 orada.
Geri ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z paran\u0131n bir k\u0131sm\u0131n\u0131 ba\u011f\u0131\u015flamak i\u00e7in tekrar gittik.
Bah\u00e7eye k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir plaket yerle\u015ftirdik:<\/p>\n

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\u201cBurada, sevgi i\u00e7in ve hat\u0131rlamak ad\u0131na bir d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn yap\u0131ld\u0131.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Ve biri bize neden orada evlendi\u011fimizi sordu\u011funda, g\u00fcl\u00fcms\u00fcyorum.<\/p>\n

\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc art\u0131k\u00a0hi\u00e7bir \u015feyden utanm\u0131yorum<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/article>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Ailem, d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcn bir huzurevinde yap\u0131laca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011frendi\u011fi anda d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne kat\u0131lmaya itiraz etti \u2014 s\u0131rf dedem gelebilsin diye b\u00f6yle bir yer se\u00e7mi\u015ftik. \u201cBizi rezil ettin,\u201d diye ba\u011f\u0131rd\u0131 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5216","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5216","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5216"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5216\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5219,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5216\/revisions\/5219"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5216"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5216"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bilgitarif.com\/iyi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5216"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}